How do u know if your son is gay
By guest blogger, Ian Taylor.
Help, I think my child may be gay. What should I do? Am I right? Whereas I am no way homophobic, I don&#;t know how I will react if it&#;s true&#;
It is understandable that every parent has concerns or questions regarding whether their child maybe lesbian, lgbtq+, bisexual and/or transgender (LGBT), considering the world we live and today; and especially if the parent starts to see one or two signs.
In this article, we answer some of the most troubling questions you may have if you suspect that your child may be queer or bisexual.
Are the suspicions starting to build?
If I assess that my teen might be same-sex attracted, how should I talk to them about it? They mentioned the subject several times, so I&#;m getting concerned.
Until your child comes and tells you that they are, or might be LGBT, you can’t know. Try not to construct assumptions and let them arrive and tell you in their own time. Create a positive environment where your child feels able to talk to you about their sexual orientation and/or gender identity. For example, speak positive things abo
Book Excerpt: Is Your Child Gay?
Excerpted fromWhy Is the Penis Shaped Like That? … And Other Reflections on Existence Human, by Jesse Bering, by arrangement with Scientific American/Farrar, Straus and Giroux, LLC (North America), Transworld Ltd (UK), Jorge Zahara Editora Ltda (Brazil). Copyright © by Jesse Bering.
We all understand the stereotypes: an unusually light, delicate, effeminate air in a little boy's step, an interest in dolls, makeup, princesses and dresses, and a powerful distaste for uneven play with other boys. In petty girls, there is the outwardly boyish stance, perhaps a penchant for tools, a square-jawed readiness for physical tussles with boys, and an aversion to all the perfumed, delicate trappings of femininity.
These behavioral patterns are feared, loathed and often spoken of directly as harbingers of grown-up homosexuality. It is only relatively recently, however, that developmental scientists have conducted controlled studies to identify the earliest and most faithful signs of elder homosexuality. In looking carefully at the childhoods of queer adults,
As I relayed in When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterling, ), I found out that my son was gay from a note with our son's name entwined with another boy's, surrounded by a heart. I accidentally found that note in his room when I was cleaning.
I never questioned him about the heart I found on the sly. How would I have brought it up? Suppose I was wrong? After all, he had a crush on a girl in his class.
I had suspected at times that he was gay. He only had girls to his thirteenth birthday party. He preferred gentler sports. He was always concerned about how he looked and followed fashion. Were these stereotypical thoughts from a linear mother? You bet, but it was ingrained through the culture's binary system and ideas about how males were "supposed to" behave.
As it turns out, our son didn't appear out until he was 17, was on his own, and brought a boyfriend to visit. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would have defensively said "No!" He had to work it out and work through his denial. I'm glad I muzzled myself.
Susan Berland, the mother o
Dear Dr. G.,
I am beside myself. My year-old son and I got into a bit of a heated argument this weekend and in the midst of it my son said he's gay. I was so shocked that I ignored his comment and ended the argument. I have spoken to my husband about this. My husband says that he has always idea that our son is gay and that if he's gay, he's homosexual. My husband seems decent with this.
I feel differently. Could my son just have said this because he was angry at me and wanted to upset me? Or, maybe he's just going through a phase. Should I have another conversation with him about this? Should I take him to a therapist? There are no other gays in our family as far as I know.
A Distraught Mother
Dear Mother,
First and main you need to rest down, regroup, and receive several deep breaths. Blow out deeply as I reveal you what I ponder. Please try not to be in panic mode. It is highly unlikely that your son told you that he is gay simply to upset you. Gay kids often tell their parents about their sexuality in the middle of a clash because they feel that they have nothing left to lose since