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Why Do So Many Bisexuals End Up In “Straight” Relationships?
When I started internet dating a woman for the first occasion after years of happily dating men, I had a go-to joke ready for when I was called upon to explain my sexual orientation to the confused: “I’m half gay. Only on my mom’s side of the family.”
I’m one of those people who’d always misguidedly “hated labels,” and I actively eschewed the term “bisexual” for years. I went on to meet a number of trans guys, and in my brain, “bi” was also indicative of a gender binary I didn’t believe existed. I’ve since appear to understand that actually, the “bi” implies attraction not to two genders, but to members of both one’s own and other genders, and that the bisexual umbrella includes a roomy rainbow of labels connoting sexual fluidity. These days, I wear the “bisexual” label proudly.
Given all that struggle and growth, my current situation might arrive as a surprise: I’m in a committed, long-term connection with a cisgender man who identifies as straight—just enjoy a startling majority of other double attraction women.
Dan Savage once observed that
Previous research has established that people can tell, more often than not, whether a man is same-sex attracted or straight from his voice alone. This ability to identify gay men from their voice has been dubbed “gaydar”—that is, a kind of radar for detecting gayness.
Gaydar
The reason why the voices of gay men tend to be distinct from those of straight men has been widely debated. Since we know that sexual orientation is due to the way that the brain was formed during prenatal development, it may be the case that these brain differences also lead to vocal patterns and behavioral mannerisms that are typically gay.
Other psychologists, though, contend that the “gay voice” comes from social learning. As men interact with the homosexual community, they pick up ways of speaking and acting that signal membership in the group. After all, we all absorb to adjust the way we talk and conduct oneself according to the standards of the various groups we belong to.
Whether the gay voice is due to nature or nurture, it’s also the case that gay men no longer have to camouflage their identity. This is because society has becom
Bisexual men more prone to eating disorders than queer or straight men, examination finds
Bisexual men are more likely to experience eating disorders than either heterosexual or gay men, according to a new announce from the University of California San Francisco.
Numerous studies have indicated that male lover men are at increased risk for disordered eating — including fasting, excessive exercise and preoccupation with weight and body shape. But the findings, published this month in the journal Eating and Weight Disorders, suggest that double attraction men are even more susceptible to some unhealthy habits.
In a sampling of over 4, LGBTQ adults, a quarter of bisexual person men reported having fasted for more than eight hours to influence their weight or appearance, compared to 20 percent of gay men. Eighty percent of bisexual men reported that they "felt fat," and 77 percent had a strong desire to lose weight, compared to 79 percent and 75 percent of gay men, respectively.
Not everyone who diets or feels fat has an eating disorder, said a co-author of the study, Dr. Jason Nagata, a professor of pediatric me
Why do some straight men include sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the Merged States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the recent book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why carry out straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they